Hi, my name is [X], I am 27 years old, I am married and we recently had our first child.

As you can imagine, my parents now want to see there grandchild. But the problem is, that I don't want to see them. They made a lot of mistakes while raising me and my brother, but are unwilling to acknowledge any of them. This accumulated in following situation: they where over for coffee and made some joke about how child-raising was handled back in the day. Basically a joke about child abuse. I was already pretty pent up since I they made the same jokes every time they saw my little son. I passive aggressively told them to not joke about these things, which caused my mother to storm away. Including throwing doors. My father and I had a fight afterwards where he defended my mother (obviously), but in the end he stormed away as well. They life very close by and the situation is very tense since then as you can imagine. Now they (especially my mother) tries to just sweep it under the rug and pretend nothing ever happened. I refuse to, but my husband pressures me to just let it go. I explained to him several times why I can't do this anymore, but he just doesn't get it and just answer that he hates it when people fight and this situation stresses him out. I plan to contact a therapist, but looking for your philosophical advice on how to deal with this situation. I would be very grateful if you would decide to talk to me since you had a big influence on my life and I deeply admire and respect you.

Thank you for reading this long mail and I wish you and your family a great day.