MY GUILTY PLEASURE!

FREEDOMAIN CALL IN SHOW 29 Oct 2023

October 29, 2023

Hosts discuss guilty pleasure TV, encourage donations, share personal stories, embrace adversity for growth, promote humility in conversations, highlight talk therapy, and thank listeners.

2023, Stefan Molyneux

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Chapters

0:00:00 Introduction and Donation Request
0:10:20 Mixed Feelings About Friends
0:13:29 The Vanishing Act of Relationships
0:20:45 The Power of Pair Bonding and Shared Values
0:24:55 Destroying the Pair Bond: Women's Shift to the State
0:31:27 The Hypocrisy of Trump's Business Start-Up
0:34:49 Pretty Girl Corruption and Pharmaceutical Reps
0:42:41 Lust vs. Virtues: The Cycle of Disappointment
0:43:49 The Illusion of Pair Bonding and Political Desirability
0:47:52 Confessions and Bitterness in Relationships
0:55:11 Bonding with ideology over people and its consequences
0:59:39 Bonding with ideology due to parental influence
1:03:15 The disconnect between abstract virtues and personal actions
1:06:42 Setting the conversation ground rules
1:10:35 Discussing the significance of knowing someone's history
1:14:14 Examining the caller's dating and relationship experiences
1:17:45 The Consequences of Fear in Relationships
1:21:27 Procrastination and the need for self-analysis
1:28:59 Excuses and explanations for personal challenges
1:34:15 Kick in the Butt: Overcoming Fear of Rejection
1:39:02 Striving for Excellence: Being the Best Show in History
1:43:03 Fear of Rejection: The Truth About Men and Women
1:44:29 Feeling down and questioning self-worth
1:50:55 The Impact of Being Dull and Negative
1:53:25 Embracing Your Light and Taking Risks
1:58:33 Overcoming Childhood Trauma and Self-Love Journey Begins
2:00:07 Overcoming Childhood Repression and Anger
2:01:09 Struggles of Recognition and Quality
2:11:50 The Importance of Respectful Listening
2:15:03 Talk Therapy and Making Time for Personal Growth

Long Summary

In this episode, we delve into a discussion about various TV shows we have been watching and reveal some of our guilty pleasures. We take this opportunity to promote our novel and kindly ask for donations to support the show. But we also want to hear from you, our audience, about the shows that you secretly enjoy watching but wouldn't necessarily brag about. We share our own thoughts on popular shows and provide recommendations for a show that we personally enjoy.

Moving on, we express our frustration with someone who lacks self-trust and constantly expresses negativity towards their own abilities. Drawing from our personal experiences, we recount the times we have faced threats and attacks while giving public speeches. These experiences have shaped us deeply and have made us realize the importance of embracing our struggles and acknowledging them as part of our growth. We firmly believe that dismissing these experiences as mere mistakes is disrespectful and fails to capture the true essence of someone's journey.

We encourage our listeners to ask questions and approach conversations with humility in order to truly understand and empathize with others. Talk therapy emerges as a crucial tool in dealing with insecurities and self-doubt. We suggest that if someone has time to date, they should also make time for therapy, noting that online options can be just as effective.

We express our gratitude for the caller's openness and willingness to listen, as it creates an atmosphere of understanding and growth. As we wrap up, we thank everyone for joining us in this enlightening conversation and wish them a fantastic day ahead.

Brief Summary

In this episode, we discuss guilty pleasure TV shows, encourage donations to support the show, and ask listeners to share their secret favorites. We share personal experiences facing adversity and emphasize the importance of embracing struggles as part of personal growth. We promote humility in conversations, highlight the value of talk therapy, and express gratitude for listener engagement. Thank you for joining us!

Transcript

Introduction and Donation Request

[0:00] Well, good morning, everybody. Stefan Molyneux from Freedomain.
Good Lord, it's near the end of October. Wowsie. Can you believe it?
I can. Still feels like sci-fi futuristic Futurama to me, but it's still 499 years to go until we get to my wonderful novel called The Future, which you should definitely check out at freedomain.com slash books.
If you are listening and you would like to help out the show it is, of course, most deeply and gratefully appreciated, my friends, if you can go to freedomain.com/donate, I would really, really appreciate that.
Super helpful, actually more than helpful, uh, fairly necessary freedomain.com/donate.
And we also will take a, we can take some live tips here, actually, believe it or not, Ripley's believe it or don't.
And let me just get that.

[0:57] Zink, Z-A-N-K, Zink.tips.freedomain, you can help me out, Zink.tips.freedomain.
We are in a race with regards to others, the other platforms.
Other platforms I get some tips, I like doing the voice chats but I have to, you know, I need to be responsible for the income and see if I can get tips there as well.
All right, well, maybe we'll do a short show today. If we all aren't chatty, it's kind of funny, right?
Because I do the show so I can talk with people, but if you all aren't chatty, then I might as well do the one with more tips.
So no biggie, no biggie.
So yeah, zinc.tips slash free domain. So I guess I have a, is it a shameful confession?

[1:49] Yes, probably a little bit of a shameful confession. In the chat, hit me with a why, if you don't mind a mildly shameful confession.
I mean, I think we all have them, don't we? Little things here and there that we're like, ooh, I'm not proud, but I'm going to try and get some good stuff out of it.
Because, you know, I don't want you all to think that I'm any kind of paragon of virtue or eternally positive and never have any temptation. So yeah, mildly, mildly guilty secret.
Tell me if you've ever heard of a show entitled The Morning Show.
Have you ever heard of a show called The Morning Show? Morning, M-O-R-N-I-N-G, although I suppose with regards to my integrity and virtue, I'm in mourning for M-O-U-R-N-I-N-G, The Morning Show.
Now I could blame it on my wife.

[2:45] And I'm tempted by that as well, but given that I have already given in to the temptation to watch Bits of the Morning show, I might as well say, Oh, she's a big Jennifer Aniston fan, it's some Greek thing, so, she's the reason I did it, it wasn't me, she's the reason.
Is that a news show? Oh, I wish it was. It is not a news show.
It is a show on Apple TV, and you know, every now and then you get these offers of like free stuff, so I can say that, right?
At least that's a vague, sad defense, but yes, it is a show.

[3:21] It is with, I mean, the acting is pretty good, Jennifer Aniston, blonde girl Reese Witherspoon, And a couple of other people that I've recognized.
The guy from Cameron Crowe's rock and roll movie, can't remember.
So anyway, there's some good acting, the writing is not bad, the people are pretty, the sets are pretty, the stakes are relatively high, and so I have dipped in.
Now, I'm not alone in this. To hit me with a show that you have watched or are watching, don't make me feel alone in all of this, my friends.
If you have a show that you have watched or are watching that you wouldn't necessarily list as your first virtue at the pearly gates in the afterlife.
Have you had a show that's gone that way for you?

[4:24] Come on, don't make me feel... I can't be the only one who has a guilty...
Oh, Game of Thrones! Yeah, Game of Thrones. That was an odd show, man.
That was... I watched a couple of episodes. That was about as nihilistic and ugly a show as could be conceived of. Prison Break. Well, Prison Break, I did watch some of that, and Prison Break was, again, somewhat nihilistic, but I, you know, I'm a sucker for brother bond Movies and but brother bond shows.

[4:56] Californication. Oh my gosh That was like watching the surgery channel. I mean, it's like I guess it's instructive, but I really don't want to see, Californication and also David Duchovny who's in that I didn't he have a sex addiction red shoe diaries kind of style And I think that the show was pretty pretty autobiographical. But yeah, Dexter I never watched that pretty little liars I, I think I watched about 20 minutes of the first one, seeing if it would be any good for my daughter, and it wasn't.
I could not make it through Californication.
That wife though, I mean, she was quite pretty and actually quite a good actress.
It's always funny, you know, how they show... there's always this contradiction in these kinds of shows.
I mean, well, more than one, but the one I think that is kind of obvious to me, I will admit it as well the Kardashians lol I did watch one Kardashian show you know I just have to hold my nose and keep abreast abreast literally abreast of the current cultural trends the Kardashians had a big impact on culture and as cultural commentator and critic lol yeah that was uh it was pretty it was pretty repulsive but you know the the Kardashians is a brave admission it's a brave admission um I did watch one episode of The Bachelor And, yeah, I mean, pretty hoard them in nice locations.
I suppose Melrose Place style is not... Melrose Place! I watched that some years ago.

[6:25] Let's see here. Not a show, but I always click on the Megan and Harry news.
Nip Tuck, way back in the day.
Nip Tuck was a show that started off pretty well, and then it got into all of this serial killer nonsense, and it just got, you know, stupid and ridiculous.
They always go too far, they always go too big, They always have to have some big giant story arc and I don't know. It's kind of like, Burn Notice is a great show, by the way. Burn Notice is like I would go to my grave, Having no shred of doubt or any defensiveness about Burn Notice. It was just a fantastic show.

[7:03] Let's see, I watched the very first Jersey Shore, never made it to the second. Well, Jersey Shore is actually one of the rare shows medically speaking, that you can actually get...

[7:17] An STD from watching it. That's not common. It's weird that it transmits over radio and TV waves, but that is actually... Breaking Bad, I watched one. I mean, Breaking Bad was such a phenomenon.
Of course, I'm a big fan of Anthony Hopkins, and when he praised the lead guy in Breaking Bad as some of the finest acting he'd ever seen, I was like, yeah, okay, I'll give that one a try.
But Breaking Bad was just too vile. It was just absolutely too vile. The Walking Dead, I watched a couple of those, got a bit repetitive.
Oh no! We need to go and get something! Oh no! There are zombies in the way!
Oh no! So it just seemed a bit repetitive for me. But yeah, I'm a show.
YouTube drama videos. Did anyone enjoy Fringe? I don't know what that one is.
I watched Bones, it was a good show. I thought that was enjoyable.
And all of that. So, you know, pretty people and bodies, live bodies, dead bodies, you know, the usual thing. Anyway, so, we'll get to... You've heard the news about Matthew Perry? Should we get to... Ice Road Truckers! Yeah, if that's not a show that's going to help you appreciate your desk job, I don't know what it is.
Did you know Kitchen Nightmares is back? Well, since people mentioned Kitchen Nightmares, Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

[8:42] I did watch some Kitchen Nightmares, and I thought that they were very interesting.
It was very instructive to see just the high IQ, low IQ collision, because Gordon Ramsay is like a super high IQ guy, and twitchy, and impatient, and you know, the hands constantly flapping around like trapped Italian birds in a cage.
And yeah, it was a good show, it was an interesting show.
I think it's kind of a Howard Rourke show, and Howard Rourke gets a mediocre architect to be great by passing along his genius, and I think Gordon Ramsay fires some energy and structure and standards into these pathetic, failing restaurants, which is obviously people who just don't listen, right?
He comes and the show is always the same, right? There's some vainglorious guy who refuses to admit that he's doing badly, he's a terrible, and Gordon Ramsay comes and tries his food, the food sucks, and then the guy says, well all the customers like it, I don't know what you're talking about man.

[9:45] And then Gordon Ramsay says, well if all the customers like it why is your restaurant going out of business, oh and by the way you haven't told your wife that you're three quarters of a million dollars in debt and you're gonna lose your house, and anyway, and then they revamp it and of course people come to the restaurant because it's Gordon Ramsay, they want to be in a documentary, they want to have had that experience, whether it's able to be sustained seems somewhat unlikely. The UK version of Kitchen Nightmares is less dramatic and better, in my opinion. Maybe, maybe, maybe.

Mixed Feelings About Friends

[10:20] I don't remember liking Friends. Oh, I mean, personally, I thought Friends was very funny, nihilistic, of course, and, you know, fairly corrupt to the core, but had some very funny stuff in it.
Watching Phoebe sing along to the bagpipes was something that had me almost wet myself. It was so funny.
And the comedians, I thought, were very skilled. Anyway, so let's get back to the morning show.
Again, well-acted, fairly well-written, and in it, I'm not going to give you any real spoilers here, in case you wanted to watch the show.
And I find the show, I find the show interesting, listen, I don't want to get all kinds, like, it's got some good trashy soapy drama in it, and I get all of that.
But I'm also, because it's so left-leaning, it's like watching the West Wing, although it's not as well-written or well-acted as the West Wing, which was kind of in a class of its own, but I watched it in part, and again I'm not trying to say, oh it's all justified by this, but I really do, I watch it in part because I'm desperate to understand the mindset.
I mean it's a very liberal, very democrat, very left-leaning show, and it's pretty wild, to try, I'm really fairly desperate to try and understand this mindset, because of course It is a very dominant mindset and in my view of course a very dangerous mindset.

[11:44] And I'll tell you what I got from it that I've been kind of obsessing over these last couple of days, so hopefully this will make some sense to you.
So, long story short, there's a woman named Levy who's played by Jennifer Aniston, and she is the talent, right? She's the on-screen personality and so on.
And she's had this producer who's been with her for, I don't know, like 20 years.
And his name is Chip. Alex, Levy, and Chip. Alex and Chip. So it doesn't really matter what the conflict is, but he's mad at her about something, she's mad at him about something, and then in the middle of a fairly ferocious argument, she suddenly steps back, puts her, hands to her temple and says, I just, I can't do this anymore. I can't do this anymore.
And she has this thing and this is obviously kind of chilling words to hear if you're in a sort of economic or romantic relationship somebody's saying I just can't do this anymore and she looks at him and wonder like wow I'm just waking up from a bad dream you're fired.

[12:55] And then he oh you can't be serious yes she's serious and then he leaves eventually and he turns at the door and he says you know when you had Covid and I came to take care of you I told you I had Covid but it didn't I hadn't actually had Covid I just took care of you because I really really do care about you.
And she just gives him this thousand yard stare, like it doesn't mean anything.
She doesn't say, oh my gosh, that's so touching. You really did make sacrifices and put your health at risk for me, you know, given the standard COVID narrative.
And he just walks out.
And there's a 20 year relationship because they're having an argument.

The Vanishing Act of Relationships

[13:29] It's gone like it never happened.
Have you had that in your life? Where people you've known for a long time, There's some kind of conflict, there's some kind of conflict and it just poof, it just goes, it vanishes.
And that person is gone from your life, never to return, and years or half decades or decades, just goes with them and you move on like it never happened, like it never happened.

[14:06] Have you ever had that experience? I think most of us have had that experience at one time or another.
Yes, her choice and loss.
Well, no, your choice and loss too, because you chose her, right?

[14:26] It was again very well acted, well written. I just can't do this anymore. Like there's another personality that never participated in the relationship that's taking over and poof there was no relationship. Somebody says yes it was wrapped in a death threat and that was it. Yeah it'll do it. Yes my best friend never saw her again. Somebody says yeah it took a bit longer going to play out though. Right, right, right. So I've really been thinking about this leftist mindset because and this is this is common throughout this show and other shows as well. First of all it's a show without children that generally tends to be the leftist thing it's a show without children and it's a show where people make up and break up constantly. So there's a lesbian relationship between Julianna Margulis and Reese Witherspoon and then there's just some fight over Reese Witherspoon's mother and Reese Witherspoon's character just walks out doesn't look back. There's a black woman who has a relationship with a war reporter and she's terrified he's gotten killed in.

[15:43] Ukraine and then she just sees him on TV giving an interview and he never called her and oh this is the guy who he went out without a mask and she like screamed and threw him out of the place and all that kind of stuff right and you see this continually that people they have no bond they they sort of crash and collide together usually over sex or maybe sort of sort of mutual ambition or money-making, they kind of crash and collide together, and then they just separate and vanish, like it never was. And that's when I sort of think about the leftist shows, there's no bond. There's no bonding.
There's no bonding. As long as people's interests align, but there's always a part of them, that's not... as long as people's interests align they can kind of hang out and get things done, but there's always a part of them that is withheld from and distant from and not participating in the relationship that can suddenly eclipse the burning light of the pretend bond and just snap it out completely. Just snap it out completely.

[17:04] No bond. And it's funny because in the whole show, the morning show, everybody's miserable, and so dramatic and it's all so self-important and so on. But one thing that's really interesting is that there's one character who is the only character I've seen who's remotely happy and Content is a mother, It's the wife of Reese Witherspoon's brother now He's kind of crazy and there's a whole Jan six thing about it, but the mother is like, you know, happy and pleasant and bonded with her baby and, eager and Content and all of that, So I've really been thinking about this sort of lack of bond.

[17:42] Now Let me ask you this my friends. How many people would you say?
You are well bonded to. Now well bonded means rain or shine, good or bad, you're just going through it. Whatever the weather, in or out of the money, you, are in it for good. You are in it in perpetuity. Do you have those people no.

[18:10] No matter what. No matter what. Right. So we've got three people, three people, zero, maybe only one or at most two. You know, I remember saying to my daughter, if she's in a con, I mean, she's had conflicts, of course, like, like all kids. And I've always said to her, look, in any conflict situation, I'm 150% on your side.
Like you tell me what it is, I'm on your side 150%.
Maybe later in private I might have a criticism or two or some feedback or something like that, but I'm, like there's no wedge that could be driven between us.
There's nothing that anyone could say that would have me not take your side.
I will always take your side. And again, it doesn't mean that there's never any feedback ever, but I will always take your side. And on the few times where that has come up, well, I take her side, right?
I mean, I always take her side. And the other kid tries to say stuff and it's like, nope, that's not my daughter. And so, and because of that, she has very few conflicts, right?

[19:23] Let's see, other people saying zero, five, maybe six, that's good.
One not a spouse, one or two, wish it were.
One wife, I felt capable of it, I just can't seem to find reciprocation, right?
So do you know that we evolved on the foundational bond of absolute devotion, right?
The tribe. Absolute devotion, absolute support within the tribe. That's... what? Was she ever wrong in a conflict? Well, I don't know what you mean by wrong. Was she ever immoral?
Well, no, of course not. But was there ever a time when she could have handled it slightly better? Well, that's true of everyone in conflict, right? So she can give me feedback, I can give her feedback. So she's never been morally wrong. But, you know, there are times where a couple of tweaks here and there might have helped out the situation. And of course I I do all of this because the stronger the bond is with her parents, and maybe a little bit more even particularly with her father, the stronger the bond is with her father, the less likely people are to mess with her, right?
Because that's just a... they have a sense for that, they have, right?
If she's got backup, if she's got somebody who's going to support her no matter what, then people don't really mess with her as much, right? Somebody says, wife and five kids, brother and four long-term guy friends.

The Power of Pair Bonding and Shared Values

[20:45] Ah, that's great.

[20:47] That's great to hear. Yeah, we kind of evolved on these bonds, bonds with tribe, bonds with family, bonds with elders, bond with culture, bond with history, bond with land, bond with religion, bond with God.
We just, we pair bonded, right?
Now, in this show, there's no pair bonding. Now, let me ask you, it's gonna be a bit of a trick question, but let me make the case. This is sort of what I've been thinking about.

[21:20] Do we bond with other people directly? Do we bond with other people directly?
When we say, I have a pair bond, are we bonding with other people directly?
I know sort of to ask the question in a sense is to answer it, and I know it's a bit of an odd way of putting it, but hopefully this will make some sense as I cruise forward on, So what? Yeah, don't we bond over shared values? That's right. The pair bonding is not with the other person. I have not pair bonded with my wife. We pair bond over virtues.

[22:08] Does this make sense? This was a radical thought to me, because pair bonding has something to do, with predictable behavior. Predictable behavior means integrity to some kind of values, hopefully good ones. So we don't pair bond with another person, we mutually pair bond over shared values.
So, how do you kill the pair bond in people, and why would you want to do that? Well, The why, I think, is pretty obvious, and I think this is more true for women than it is for men.
Men tend to, I mean, we have our strengths and weaknesses, but one of the strengths that men have is that we tend to be slightly better at being independent, right?
Because we don't have kids in the same way, obviously, that women do with the pregnancy and breastfeeding and so on.
So we tend to be a little bit better at independence than women are.

[23:08] So for women, without the pair bond, life is full of anxiety, full of fear, full of worry, concern, possibilities of bad things happening, you know, this sort of, and you can see this kind of coming out full flight with things like COVID, right, where you just, I think women are more easily programmed to experience fear.
If you can break the pair bond, particularly for women, women feel anxiety, nervousness, fear, vulnerability, because they're not protected, which they need to be biologically because of the massive investment they make in the offspring.
And of course, if you can break the pair bond between women and men, what do women pair bond with? What do they try to use to gain the security that they don't get because they're not pair bonded? What do they, where do they run? Yeah, they run to the state, they run to authority, they run to the leaders, because women are all about resource transfer, which is again, this is not a negative, this is beautiful, it's why we're all here, but women are all about resource transfer. I need someone to take care of me because I'm having kids.

[24:27] And if there's not someone who loves them, who they're pair bonded with, to give them resource transfer, they run to the state. So you understand, if you want to gain power, as a government, you destroy the pair bond, which makes women anxious, which makes them vote for bigger government.

Destroying the Pair Bond: Women's Shift to the State

[24:55] And I was alluding to that when I did the speech in the show on Friday night about the black woman, I played as a black woman talking to her woke registered nurse daughter, now and you can see this of course in my novel The Present where Rachel pivots from Arlo, to the Christian Steadmuffin Now how do you break the pair bond? How do you break the pair bond? Well of course you can bribe with sex and status and money and so on right? When there's a lot of that in media. But how do you break the pair bond? Well what you do is since we pair bond over values, the way that you break the pair bond and thus swell the power of the state, is you say to people there are, no values, there's no truth, there's no God. If God is the source of your values, we'll throw the baby out with the bathwater.
There's no objectivity, there's no reality, you can't even trust your senses.
You make people radically subjective.

[26:12] Tell me if this line of argument makes sense and also if it's of value to you.
Because if you look at, in particular, the post-war period, if you look at the post-war period coming out of the left, particularly the French philosophers, was this radical attack on objectivity, on truth, on virtue, on values.

[26:39] So if there's no truth, there's no values, there's no virtues, there's no reality, there's no objectivity, then people become random.
They pursue immediate sense pleasure, they pursue a status for no particular purpose.
What replaces integrity is almost always vanity, and vanity is unstable.
Vanity is about domination and therefore it's the opposite of connection.
This is the weird thing that you see where people think that by trash-talking their partner they look better.
It's like no no you don't understand. By trash-talking your partner you're trash-talking yourself.
Which is why when the other person said yeah it was her loss and it's like no no no but it was your loss for having like... don't try and status up someone.
I mean, I don't think I've ever talked about an ex-girlfriend like, I was great, she was terrible.
It was like, it wasn't bad, but I was still learning and right, wasn't terrible.
Doesn't it strip away a woman's free will slash agency to say they're programmed to run to the state for resource transfer, even though it goes against basic principles of morality?

[27:54] Oh my gosh.
I try not to get too annoyed at the nitpickers. And I know that this, oh how could this be a nitpicking question? It's a very important and essential question. But don't ask me questions about free will.
Please, I'm begging everyone here. This is just a be reasonable, be polite, be considerate, be thoughtful.

[28:20] Don't ask me questions about free will without knowing my position on free will, It's rude Honestly, it's rude and, I'll tell you why in just a second, right and I get you're not trying to be rude. You're asking a reasonable question I'm sure it sounds reasonable to other people But a moment's thought can answer it and this is how I know that this is triggering you you're anxious So you're dumping out a question there to distract me from what I'm saying because to manage your anxiety rather than, Allow the pursuit of truth Okay, Now when I say know my position on free will I'm not saying you have to agree with it, but you have to know it right if I'm gonna, critique or ask a question of A philosopher it is incumbent upon me to know what that philosopher has said about the topic before, Otherwise, I'm kind of wasting his and everyone's time, right?
So, does anyone here remember my definition of free will? What is my definition of free will?

[29:31] It is, it's a rhetorical question because I know it would be a lot to type out, free will, and I've got three shows on free will.
And if you're concerned about questions of free will and you're part of this conversation, understanding my arguments is valuable because that's the context in which this conversation is occurring, right?
So if I want to go and argue with an animal rights activist, it's important for me to know what the arguments are that the animal rights activist has made, so that I'm not just coming in out of nowhere.
So free will is our ability to compare proposed actions to ideal standards.
Will is our ability to compare our proposed actions to ideal standards.

[30:18] Because it's the one thing that we can do that animals can't, right?
Now if I've just talked about how the destruction of ideal standards was the work of the post-war left, particularly out of France, then when I say that they take away truth, values, virtue, ethics, morality, philosophy, objectivity, then what they've done is they've destroyed ideal standards.
There are no ideal standards. So if you don't have any ideal standards to compare your proposed actions to, you fundamentally don't have free will.

[30:53] You don't have free will if you don't have any ideal standards.
And we can see this with the development of the very accurate meme known as the NPC.
The NPC is the person who just has pre-programmed responses.

[31:10] And like I met a guy not too long ago who was, It was a wealthy guy and he'd put all of his kids through PhDs and all of that, And he was railing against Trump. And one of the things he railed against Trump was.

The Hypocrisy of Trump's Business Start-Up

[31:27] Well, Trump got money from his father to start his business so he's not a real businessman, right, Honestly, what does that mean? Your kids aren't really educated because you paid for them, him to go all the way through their PhDs, which was, you know, massive amounts of money.
And I said, it's interesting because proportional to the Trump wealth, I bet you the money that Trump got to start his businesses was less in terms of percentage than the money you gave to your kids for their education.
So why is it bad for Trump's father to help him, but it's really good for you to help your kids?
I just, you know, and you know, it's like short circuit hostility, right?
I mean in his world, in his circle, that's just the price of, you know, the price of having a social life if you have to hate Trump, even though, you know, it doesn't make any sense relative to what you're doing, at least those particular criticisms, right?
I remember the days back in 2015 when I thought, oh, well, the people, the reason that people People dislike this person or that person because they simply don't have enough information.
So once I give them the right information, they'll just change their view because, oh the optimism, wasn't it glorious?
And you know, that was a couple of years without war. That was pretty nice, wasn't it?
It was pretty nice, particularly for my younger male audience.

[32:44] Pretty nice. So yeah, so if you say, right, if you say, doesn't it strip away a woman's free will slash agency to say that they're programmed to run to the state for resource transfer even though it goes against basic principles of morality?
So as I've said, and again if you were listening you don't even know my, like when I said the left was dedicated to destroying the conceptions of the basic principles of morality and then you say well, but why would women do things that go against the basic principles of morality?
It's like well what I've done is I've sabotaged your GPS and then you say knowing that someone sabotaged the GPS why are they driving in the wrong direction? It's like well no, GPS got sabotaged. So you strip away free will when you strip away truth, objectivity, reason, integrity, virtue, all of that kind of stuff. So I just wanted to sort of point.

[33:34] That out that if you listen really actively and think for yourself in a conversation, you don't need to ask these questions. So when I say they stripped away morality, you'd, say well why would women be, doesn't it, like why would women be acting against morality? It's like I just like just did 10 minutes on. I don't mean to sound annoyed right but it is mildly annoying when I'm kind of in a flow and again I can ignore the questions and all that but this is a two-way street right otherwise I'd just do a solo show. So there's no bond. When there's no bond, you have great and deep anxiety and as you age it gets worse and worse and worse which is why you see particularly older white women just you know with these wheel barrows of antidepressants and all this kind of stuff just big.
So when you're young you have the illusion of the bond right.
For women what's the illusion of a bond when they're yeah without bonds there's bondage yeah it's a good way to put it. So for women what's the illusion of pair bonding when they're young?
What gives them the illusion of a bond when they're young?

Pretty Girl Corruption and Pharmaceutical Reps

[34:49] Compliments. That's a very male perspective because, and that's funny because for men we're so rarely complimented. Like you know that meme of like a woman being told she has a nice smile for the 20th time that day, she's kind of rolling her eyes, but then there's a man smiling at the corner thinking about that one time 20 years ago when a woman who wasn't his mother told him he looked handsome. So for you, for you it's like wow, pair bonding as compliments. No, no, for women compliments don't pay the bills. Compliments is not resource transfer, it's indication of potential resource transfer. So for women what is, yeah, men's unwavering attention and provisioning of her lifestyle, steady boyfriend, well whatever transfers resources to her and the resource, again some resources are social media clout which often translates into some kind of income and so on, right. So it's admiration that.

[35:47] Transfers resources. That is, I mean, when I worked in a hardware store in the Don Mills mall when I was like, I don't know, 14 or something like that, I, my friend and I, who we all, we worked together, he was a really great guy, my friend and I would go to a particular convenience store every break to grab a a snack and why oh why oh why did we go to that particular convenience store.

[36:23] To get our snacks there were lots of convenience stores around lots of places we could have got our snacks yeah because there was a cute girl behind the counter and we like to flirt with her, now not blaming her i'm just you know this is the reality of the situation so she had job security she had job security.

[36:42] Because she was pretty. And because she was pretty, the income of the convenience store went up.
I mean, she was cute enough that there were, like, guys lined up to get snacks with, like, two empty stores around, right?
And we all we all know this phenomenon, do you know what one of the biggest phenomenon, of pretty girl corruption there is the biggest phenomenon in America in particular of pretty girl corruption? What is it? I'm sure you know. Some of the biggest effects ever. No it's not It's not the feminism stuff.
I said pretty girl corruption.
You may or may not know if you've known anything about the industry.
Social media, no. Well, that's a consequence. Pretty girl corruption, Taylor Swift, no.
Waitresses, no.
No, I mean, it certainly has an effect. Being a pretty girl can trap a woman in the waitress world for too long and then she runs out of looks and it's pretty bad from there on, right?

[37:50] You're not sure what I mean by that question? Okay, let me give you the answer and then obviously if I'm wrong, you can tell me and if it doesn't make sense, you can tell me.
The biggest example of pretty girl corruption is pharmaceutical reps, right?
The pretty women who visit doctors and get doctors to prescribe the medications that the pharmaceutical companies want to sell.
Have you heard about this at all?
Yeah, selling to lonely doctors, coming in, sitting down in your tight skirt and your low-cut top and chatting.
And this is like a well, I remember on the old show Scrubs, there was a whole thing with Heather Locklear about this, right, that the hot girl drug pusher is kind of a phenomenon, right?
Does that make sense? And if you think about, you know, the opioid crisis and antidepressants and ADHD drugs and all of that, I mean, a lot of them are pushed by pretty girls to doctors.

[38:56] Tell me if I'm wrong about this, but in terms of like a hundred thousand Americans dying a year from drug overdoses, again it's not obviously all at the feet of this, but a pretty big proportion of it is.
So yeah, it's a huge problem. So when women are young and very attractive, they feel, because men desire them, that that's like a pair bond, right?
Because she's desired, she feels that there's a bond.
Does this argument make sense so far? I want to make sure that I'm… And this is actually, I mean, this is on movies and TVs now, not so much in the theaters, this is being talked about you know I saw a bit of one show where there was this one hot girl who was a farmer rep who got another hot girl to be a farmer rep because she had such a great figure and the doctors are all lonely and then one doctor snarled at her that she's a drug pusher and all this kind of stuff.

[40:18] So, no, but you see, where drug advertisements are not allowed, the problem can be even worse.
Because then how do you get doctors to prescribe your drugs?
Well, you get the pretty girls to go in, but the other thing you do, of course, is you shower them with gifts, with free trips, and, you know, there's a big conference in Hawaii.
We'd love for you to give a 15-minute speech. We're going to pay all expenses, bring your wife, we'll give you a week in Hawaii, just, you know, 15 minute speech, and all right, so, ew, ew, ew, ew.

[41:01] So, wait, what, you think pharma direct-to-consumer sales are positive?
I don't know what that means. None of the whole environment is negative.
And the reason is that pharma ads to consumers, which I think is only allowed in, what is it, New Zealand and America.
Direct ads to consumers, why are they negative? Does it violate the non-aggression principle to say you should try my drug?
No, I guess as long as you're honest about side effects and all of that.
But the reason all of this stuff is nonsense is that how many people pay for their own drugs directly? Right?
Very few. Very few, very few. I mean how many people, I mean if COVID didn't bring this out, right, how many people paid for the entire cost of developing, marketing, producing?

[42:04] The vaccines, covid vaccines. Well it was all quote free right so people can afford to virtue signal when they've got no skin in the game right. So for women they feel, that there's pair bonding because they are desired. But that's not virtue that's lust.
And lust and virtue can co-join beautifully which is why sexuality is essential to male-female pair bonding, so virtue and sexuality can live together beautifully, but.

Lust vs. Virtues: The Cycle of Disappointment

[42:41] If the man is acting out of lust, the woman feels like there's a pair bond and then the man dumps her, he ghosts her, he moves on because he's not into her for her virtues, he's into her, well because he's into her, right, and once he's in her he's out of her and moving on And then she gets bitter and then she blames men, right?
Oh, men are inconstant, men don't... You can't rely on men, they're selfish bastards, right?
I mean, every time I hear a woman put down men, all I hear is that she's frustrated that the vagina coin is declined at this time in her life.
So, if you're bitter at men, it's because the V-card gets declined after a while.
Well, it gets declined constantly, but then it loses value over time.

The Illusion of Pair Bonding and Political Desirability

[43:49] So she has the illusion of pair bonding because she's desired and of course the politicians woo her and, Quote flirt with her which is why all, Politicians who are successful have to have a full head of hair all politicians who are successful have to be reasonably good-looking all politicians who are successful have to be taller than their opponents and so on because, Jesus used to be the ersatz boyfriend for some women women, cats become the ersatz companionship for some women, and politicians, like the, number of women who dreamed about having sex with Barack Obama was chilling beyond words, right?
They literally form, like whoever provides them resources they fantasize about, well I guess except the actual taxpayer.
So this young woman that worked at a ski resort, wow the miles and bitterness on her. Sure.
Sure, well ski resorts in particular are hotbeds of powdery fuckery, for sure, I mean there are a lot, I mean it's like tree planting, right, there's just a lot of predatory sexual crap that goes on at ski resorts for sure.

[45:07] Barron Trump will be the king of America based upon these states, yeah, except he's, well I don't know it's hard to see how his looks are going to settle but he still looks a bit awkward but yeah definitely the man is a giraffe.

[45:21] So if you can convince people there's no truth, there's no virtues, there's no morals, there's no values and again this is like combined with this I've again struggled my way through I've almost finished a the biography of Marlon Brando who was a big influence on me when I was younger because of course I was in theater school and he was he's the best film actor that has ever lived I probably ever will live and, So I watched I've been watching a couple of his movies and the one I watched which is really wild and insane and Truly psychotic is called the last tango in Paris and the behavior is just completely random Everybody's just completely random. Nobody makes any sense at all, but I guess that's just life when you're bouncing around various lusts and perversions and all of that. So you convince people there's no truth, there's no reason, there's no reality, there's no objectivity, there's no virtue, and they lose the ability to pair bond because we pair bond based on shared values and if there are any shared values.

[46:33] Then you have to lie to yourself. If you don't believe in anything, you have to lie to yourself.
So if a woman has no particular morals or virtues, and I don't want to say that I'm picking on women here, men can do it in other ways, right, but it's a little easier to understand, in this context because it's more sort of based on sexual. But if a woman doesn't have any particular virtues or values or morals, and lots of men desire her, then she has to say, I have value because I'm desired. I have value because hormones. I have value because whole. I have value because semen. I have value because whatever right? Sex.
Now nobody really believes that but you have to lie to yourself and invent all of these other things you know like well I just asked the universe for things and the universe provides. Yeah yeah yeah if by universe you mean penis then yes penis provision is a thing that a lot of women confuse with mysticism.

[47:32] So, you have no pair bond, and the lust that you lie to yourself and say is your value diminishes over time, then there's just this bitterness.
And there's just this bitterness.

Confessions and Bitterness in Relationships

[47:52] I mean, when women say, this is how much I love cats, I know that the pussy has gone up in one market and down in another.

[48:07] It's all a confession. All a confession. And I have a lot of sympathy for women about this because.

[48:15] I mean, come on, dudes. I mean, we like to say, well, we're more sensible than It's like, no, no, no, women just get the temptation earlier and younger, that's all, that's all. And you and I would be the same for the most part in those situations, absent some significant intervention like God or morality or philosophy or something like that.
We'd be the same, we'd be the same. The idea that there's this whole other group of people who are tempted by things you'd never be tempted by and you can feel superior to them, it's really sad and pathetic and it's part of the red pill MGTOW stuff that I really dislike.
Eugenocentrism is like, yeah, yeah, that's a thing for sure.
Women, they bond with you over resources. Yeah, yeah, that's a thing.
If you want true love, you've got to go to Jesus. You can't go to women any more than men, right?
So love is the pair-bonding mechanism we use to raise the next generation.
It's not there to serve your ego, your vanity, your life, your purpose.
It's not there to make you feel important. It's not there to make you feel needed.
It's not there to fill up the hole left by your absent or neglectful or abusive, or violent, or distant, or distracted. Mother, love is there to parabond you to raise the next generation. And of course virtue is important and values are important because you want to raise a good healthy wise next generation. But love is not there to make you feel better. Right?

[49:32] Love is not there to make you feel better. Love is not there to serve your ego. Love is not there to serve your vanity. Love is not there to make you feel wanted, or special, or treasured, or important, love is there to pair-bond you.

[49:47] To raise the next generation. And yes we absolutely want to mix virtue and with love to make it, good and stable and noble but it's not there for you right. You are there for love, like your sex drive is not there so that you feel important or valued or treasured or good, your sex drive is there like you are for your sex drive your sex drive isn't for you, you are for your looks your looks aren't for you you are for love love is not for you, Like, philosophy is not for me, you understand, philosophy is not for me.
I am for philosophy. Pair bonding happens when you follow rules.
You are pair bonded with the rules and through that you gain trust and stability with the other person.
And the one thing you can see in these shows is that people break their own rules all the time.
They're all hypersensitive about offense and then they yell the most horrible things at each other.

[50:56] I mean, they obviously know they're hypersensitive about racism but they put down white males all the time.
Like, so the fact that they make these rules and break these rules is precisely why they can't be trusted.
And there's something else which I sort of wanted to mention now, of course, this is a live show.
So if you have questions or comments, I'm certainly happy to provide.
But the one thing that I've noticed, if you want to have questions or issues or whatever, if you want me to finish this up, that's fine.
But the one thing I've really noticed is that in conjunction with this lack of bonding with individuals is this insane bonding with abstract, quote, morals.
Again, I sort of was thinking about this in the Marlon Brando biography, because, I mean, the man was obsessed with social justice stuff.
Obsessed with the rights of the aboriginal population of America and anti-racism and this that and the other. And yeah I mean these are all interesting conversations to have.

[51:51] But his son was thrown in jail for murder, his daughter committed suicide, he had disastrous relationships with just about everyone around him. Even later in his life he got really obsessed with computers and back in the dial-up AOL days he used to get into political arguments with people which would usually end with him, Marlon Brando, the elderly Marlon Brando, telling them to F off and and then he would get banned and then one of his assistants would have to call up AOL and pretend that Marlon Brando was his 13 year old kid and he'd promised to never do it again. So you've got a guy in his 70s swearing at people on the internet getting banned and one of his assistants has to pretend that he's a kid in order to get his account back so I mean that's really tragic so he cares about the aboriginal population and he cares about this then he cares about that but, He humiliated co-workers, abused his children, harmed everyone pretty much that he came in contact with.
So the less the virtue, the more the ideology. The less you bond with virtue and therefore people, like genuine virtue, personal virtue, and therefore people, the more you bond with these weird otherworldly ideologies.

[53:15] I mean, the man put more effort, Marlon Brando, into Aboriginal rights than he did into parenting his own children. His own children!
He talked about virtue all the time, and had sex with anything that had even half a pulse in the neighborhood.

[53:49] He claimed to want to promote virtue in the world and ended up glamorizing both a crime lord in The Godfather and a complete sociopath which he played with great charisma and skill, in Last Tango in Paris and other.
I guess he did a dry white season where he played a judge in South Africa But even that was sort of the social justice warrior stuff, the less you bond with actual virtue and actual people the more you bond with these, Alien ideologies and by alien I don't mean that they have no value. Yeah, these are important conversations to have, But not compared to being a good parent Be a good parent. I mean, this is my whole first novel revolutions is about this struggle, Do you pursue abstract virtues or personal values?
And isn't it often the case that those who love mankind in the abstract hate people in their lives the most?
And in this morning show they're constantly talking about justice and virtue and sensitivity and the right behavior, and they all treat each other horribly.

Bonding with ideology over people and its consequences

[55:11] That the more, I don't know, the cause and effect is tough, the less you're bonded with people, the more you bond with ideology and then the more you bond with ideology, the less you like people and this of course you know is is the case with the marxists and so on who claim to you know just want justice and rightness and so on but then end up slaughtering people by the tens of millions or more.

[55:38] The more you bond with weird abstract virtues and again not to say that there's no virtue in talking about these things, there is, but you should have virtue in your life first before you start talking about injustices from.

[55:58] Agencies you can't control. I can't believe that the American government broke its treaties with the natives. Okay well your own kids are spiraling into, addiction and violence and but but in 1890 the Comanche tribe like what the hell? I mean what the hell? It's like that famous meme of the obese woman in the wheelchair wearing a mask saying to the fit woman jogging by your lack of a mask is harming my health. No I'm not sure about that so much compared to say the crippling obesity. So there does seem to be this polarity if you're not bonded with people you bond with ideology and by ideology I mean virtues you don't have to live yourself. Virtues you can whine about, complain about, nag about but you don't actually have to live yourself.

[57:16] And of course virtues that are completely... I mean Marlon Brando with his, you know, the Indians as he would put it, the Indians were treated abominably by the government. It's like, well yeah, so the solution is more government power, more government transfer, more government resources. It's like, no, no, no, come on, don't be crazy, right?
So the ideology. So then my guess is that the reason why people bond with ideology is that ideology was the price of positive reactions from parents as children.
With my mother, I had to agree with the crazy things she said or I would be attacked and threatened with violence or ostracism, which is even worse than violence for kids.
So I had to agree with my mother's crazy takes on things or she would attack me.

[58:21] Right.
So the only way I could maintain any kind of bond with my mother was to submit to her ideology.
And then even as an adult, when I pushed mildly back against her ideology, saying I would like to talk about things other than these endless lawsuits you have with doctors, then she ditched me if I did not conform to her weird abstract ethics right she's like well I've got to hold these doctors to account it's like do you ever hold yourself to account for beating up your kids no but these doctors I have to do I have to hold them to account I have to punish these doctors for their bad behavior blah blah blah it's like I mean as far as the virtues go that's really weird and abstract compared to, you know, some of the wrongs that you yourself, mom, did, right?
So I think the reason people bond with this ideology and dislike people, the reason why they bond with this ideology about peace and justice and reason and virtue but actually abuse the people in their own lives is because when they were growing up they had to conform to their parents ideology or be attacked and rejected by their parents.
So they have to bond with this weird alien belief system, which never has to be enacted in personal virtues, because that was the price of having any bond with their parents.

Bonding with ideology due to parental influence

[59:39] So they grow up with this pseudo-bond to weird abstract ethics.

[59:46] But they treat the people around them abominably because the weird abstract ethics were used to treat them abominably when they were children. So they bond with abstract justice but never personal virtues. And they also because they were punished, attacked, excluded and ostracized by their parents if they questioned their parents ideology they grew up bonded to this ideology, Stockholm syndrome stuff, and then they attack anybody who questions that ideology because it's questioning the pretend bond they have with their parents that they needed for survival, which is why so many people, view questioning the ideology. They have the same fight or flight response that they have, if somebody were to physically attack them and threaten their lives, right?

[1:00:42] I mean in Last Tango in Paris, the main character, the Marlon Brando character Paul, is such a sociopathic narcissist that he has this affair with this woman, obviously this bizarre male fantasy she's like he's 47 she's like 19 right so it's it's crazy right decades and decades between them he's old and haggard she's young and beautiful and he doesn't he doesn't want to know her name don't tell me anything about yourself I don't want to know your name I don't want to know anything about you I just want to use you as an object and then as these things happen the abuser becomes the victim the one who rejects her becomes the one who desperately needs her and then he corners her in her apartment and she finally tells him her name at the same time as she shoots him.

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