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https://cdn.freedomainradio.com/FDRP/FDR_dating_unstable_women_call_in.mp3

Brief Summary
In this episode, we discuss a caller's challenges in a past relationship, including lack of physical intimacy and feeling disconnected. We delve into the impact of upbringing on relationships and delve into the caller's complicated relationship with their parents. We also address responsible parenting and the caller's desire for loving parents. Introspection and addressing underlying issues are highlighted as crucial steps in building healthier connections.

Hi Stef, It's been a year since I broke up with my ex, after listening to your show regularly during that time since the breakup I've made significant progress in processing the emotions. There are 3 relationships I'd like to discuss with you that I'm sure will paint a picture for you of where I'm at now. I still struggle with thoughts of my ex and finding a path forward.

Chapters
0:00:00 Introduction and setting the context
0:12:26 Mother's lack of recollection of previous night's events
0:16:12 Memories of being disciplined with a belt and spanked
0:22:36 Hiding and indifference in family relationships
0:32:33 Unanswered Questions about Family Communication
0:33:20 Hiding an Online Relationship with Girl One
0:40:59 Long-Distance Relationship and Cheating with Girl Two
0:45:03 Taking Responsibility and Understanding Patterns
0:52:11 Living Together, Lack of Intimacy, and Porn Addiction
0:56:26 Weight gain in college and possible birth control effects
1:04:52 Daughter's Weight Gain and Father's Weight Loss
1:09:07 The Consequences of Neglectful Parenting
1:13:02 Importance of Parenting and Addressing Weight Issues
1:21:13 The issue of sex before marriage and sexual dysfunction
1:25:06 Body image issues and the importance of sex
1:28:10 The truth sets things straight, no more excuses.
1:32:46 Introduction to the relationship and emotional manipulation
1:44:46 Conflicting Expectations on Living Arrangements
1:52:37 The Backpack Drama and False Excuses
1:57:08 A Tumultuous Car Ride and Flight Considerations
2:02:37 Explosive Interaction with Friends and a New Year's Kiss
2:06:40 The Movie Triggering a Trauma and the Breakup Revelation
2:12:09 Making a Case against the Ex
2:16:31 Chasing Sex instead of Virtue
2:21:28 The Impact of a Terrible Mother
2:24:51 Girlfriend's Disapproval of the Protagonist's Mom
2:28:34 The Past Neglect: Lack of Help and Support
2:37:35 Questioning the Parenting Skills
2:38:31 Reflection on needing therapy
2:47:29 The Impact of Past Behaviors on Helpless Children
2:48:25 Slandering his son's virtuous girlfriend
2:51:50 Making excuses for the parents' behavior
2:54:39 Conversations with Parents: Addressing Family Dysfunction
2:55:36 Fear of Bringing Quality Women Home
2:58:37 Confronting the Mother's Lack of Effort

Long Summary
During this episode, we dive deep into a caller's previous relationship and the challenges they faced. The caller expresses frustration over the lack of physical intimacy and feeling like strangers with their ex-girlfriend even though they were living together. I empathize with the caller and emphasize the importance of physical intimacy in a romantic relationship. I suggest that the ex-girlfriend's upbringing, where she lacked guidance and support from her parents, may have contributed to the issue.

The caller acknowledges the significance of sex in building a romantic connection and questions societal pressure around abstaining from sex before marriage. I reassure the caller that their concerns are valid and that they are not alone in experiencing these challenges.

In another part of our conversation, we explore the caller's difficult relationship with their parents and how it may be impacting their romantic relationships. I highlight the unhealthy nature of the caller's mother's alcoholism and question why they continue to maintain a relationship with her despite the harm she has caused. I propose that their relationship issues with girlfriends may originate from their own complicated relationship with their parents. I provide an example of how a quality woman would likely perceive the caller's mother unfavorably, and the caller admits that one of their unstable ex-girlfriends had issues with their mom. Together, we delve into the possible reasons behind this.

Later in the episode, a caller's mother joins in a role-play conversation with me, where we discuss her past neglectful behavior as a parent. I question why she didn't seek help for her alcoholism when her son was young and why she didn't take action when she discovered explicit content on her son's phone during his teenage years. I stress the importance of responsible parenting and express concern about the caller's ability to be around children if they haven't reflected on their past mistakes. I encourage the caller to seek therapy and read parenting books to improve their understanding of being a good guardian.

The caller reflects on their past failures as a parent and acknowledges the need for change. Our conversation ends on a reflective note, discussing love and the caller's desire for loving parents. I advise the caller to have conversations with their parents and recognize the dysfunctional family dynamics that may be affecting their relationships. It's clear that introspection and addressing these underlying issues are key steps towards building healthier connections in the future.

Transcript: https://freedomain.com/why-am-i-dating-unstable-women/